How to Crush Your Goals!

This minisode is jam-packed with everything you need to ensure you crush your goals.


You will learn:
- how to hold yourself accountable
- what happens when you have a community behind you
- how to track your progress, evaluate your efforts, and manage your results
- why it's important to celebrate no matter what

 
Mentioned in this episode:
Author Your Life, Ep 18 - What’s Your Incentive or Reason Why?
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/author-your-life/id1578407210?i=1000555028993

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Welcome to author your life, a podcast about making bold moves and big changes, living life powerfully on your own terms, outside social norms and expectations. Through conversations with inspiring individuals who forge their own path in life, we'll explore what it takes to face your fears and go after your dreams. You are not a victim of circumstance, you can always begin again, start a new chapter, and rewrite your story. This is author your life. And I'm your host, Julie B. Let's get the conversation started. Hello, friends, welcome back to another episode of author your life. Today, we're going to talk about goal setting and more specifically, what you need to crush your goals. This is my personal opinion, belief experience. But I've kind of looked at a lot of different goal setting methods, advice workshops that I've been to or seen and kind of pulled out the commonalities. And I've come up with four things that you need, if you have a goal for things that you must have in place, if you are serious about accomplishing and crushing that goal. So I want to share those with you today. The first thing you need is a really strong reason why. In other words, you have to have an incentive, you need to know why you're going for it. Especially in the dips, the slumps and the hard times, your why your reason. It's your guideposts, your guiding light, your bedrock, it's the thing that you're going to have to look to, and hold on to and cling to, when the going gets tough and guaranteed. If you're pursuing any kind of big goal, the going is going to get tough at some point. I just did a whole episode about your why we took a deep dive into how to identify your why, how to make sure you really want the thing that you think that you want, and how to actually incentivize yourself. A lot of us are motivated or driven by incentives. And your incentive can be fear based, it could be a consequence that you're trying to avoid. Your incentive could be desire based, it could be a reward that you're seeking or something that you're hoping to achieve. Make sure that you are super clear on your why that's the first thing you need. The second thing you need is going to be accountability. This is huge. And I think it's so often overlooked. If you're setting out to accomplish a goal, you want to tell everyone I know that sounds scary, especially if the goal is scary. And you're not even sure if you can accomplishment, especially if you're sure that you might fail. You need to tell everyone once you've spoken your goal into existence, I guarantee you is going to feel more real. Once you have other people who are in your corner rooting for you cheering for you, they know what you're doing. They're supporting you. They're going to ask you about your progress. It's because they love you and they care and they want to see you succeed. So when you're in those slumps, and those moments of doubting and wanting to quit, if you're doing it 100% in quiet. No one knows about it, you're not going to have anyone to turn to. But if you're chasing your goal, and you have a whole family, a whole community of people behind you, rooting for you and cheering you on, you have a whole community of people you can turn to when you need to pick me up. That's your accountability. You can find accountability in so many places these days, especially with the Internet. One level of accountability with finding a buddy. So if say you want to pick up running, and you're brand new, and you want to find a running buddy, just ask someone, hey, I want to go running, will you come with me? I want to start going to the gym, will you go to the gym with me? So the first level is to find a buddy who's actually going to do the thing with you. If your schedules don't exactly work out, you can also find someone who's just going to check in with you and hold you accountable. To the schedule you set for yourself an example. I do not have any training clients first thing in the morning on Mondays actually don't have anything on Monday morning. And I've been kind of luxuriating in the fact that I don't have to get up for anything on Monday. However, there are a lot of things that I really want to do on Monday that I would love to do, for example, the podcast, or housecleaning, but it's so tempting to just stay in bed when there's nothing getting me up and going. So I actually recruited a friend, to check in with me on Monday mornings, I said, I want to be up and ready starting my day, at eight o'clock, at eight o'clock, I'm eating breakfast, I'm seated at the kitchen table ready to start work. I'm doing stuff around the house. But I'm going to text you every morning, Monday at eight and tell you what I'm up to. And if you don't hear from me, I want you to check in with me. I actually put some money on the line too. So side note, for me, money is a very strong incentive. You could also get an accountability group. You could find a Facebook group with a bunch of people that you know, are just like chasing the same goal as you, you can reach out to your community post on Facebook and say, Hey, I'm looking to do this thing. Do you know anyone else? Who is are you trying to do the same thing? Can we check in with each other periodically? I have a podcast accountability buddy. I posted on Facebook about getting the podcast up and running again and said this is my priority for the year. And one of my fellow entrepreneur friends. She's like, Oh, my gosh, me too. That's so cool. So I messaged her and said, Hey, would you be interested in meeting once a week. And we'll just check in with each other and give each other updates on the progress and the growth of our podcasts and hold each other accountable. She was completely down for it turns out were very similar points in like our podcast growth and where we want to take it next. It has been so great. My weekly meetings with Megan have been tremendous in helping me get myself organized, look at the schedule, create a workflow, and just to get myself going, because I know that I have to meet with her. And I want to tell her that I've actually made some progress. Accountability just means that you give your word to something, you say that you're going to do this, you put something on the line, and you can recruit other people to help you. But another way to hold yourself accountable. Sign up for something. If you want to run a race, sign up, pick a date, pay the registration. If you want to go on vacation, booked the plane ticket, put yourself on the line, know that you put some money down, you got to do it now you got to make it happen. There are so many different ways that you can hold yourself accountable. So you can really be creative, find a group, find a community, go on the internet, go on Instagram. Look for people who have the same hobbies as you just send them a message. People would probably love that way more than you think. Like we are social, we are not meant to do anything alone. And pursuing a big goal is absolutely no exception. Any big goal that you see someone who completes a marathon, someone who completes a massive hike, someone who even accomplishes a master's degree or doctorate, they never did it alone. They had a whole community of people behind them, supporting them picking up the slack, cooking meals on the late nights, talking them up when they felt down. So definitely, definitely get accountability. Do not put it all on yourself. Whatever it is, share your goals, speak it into existence, and then rally people behind you get people in your corner who love you who are going to want you to succeed and encourage you to show up even when you're not feeling like it. The third thing you need is to evaluate. You need to evaluate your progress. I'm a very analytical person, I have a background in math. So I'm really big on analytics. If you have a way of actually tracking your progress, anyway, maybe you want to keep a notebook and write down like what you've done each day. Maybe you want to keep a calendar. I used to have a calendar and I would put stickers on every day that I did my workout. And I loved looking at that calendar and seeing all the days with stickers just accumulate and it was so encouraging and that it made me want to continue because it was proof that I could do it and I also didn't want to break my streak. So evaluate and I guess I would also say track Manage, track and manage your results. Because once you have results, you can evaluate your efforts. You can look back and say, Did this go the way I wanted it to? Am I actually making progress towards my goal the way that I thought I would? Or things going the way I want? Do I need to tweak something? Do I need to adjust something? Those kinds of questions, the answers lie in the data. So find a way to track your progress. And make sure once in a while you check in with yourself and actually evaluate your progress to make sure that you're still moving towards your goal. Finally, our last but not least step in the things you need to crush your goals is celebrate, you need to celebrate, you are working hard towards something, whether you reach your goal or not. Even if you don't make it the mere fact that you worked towards something you pushed yourself when times were hard, you did something that you didn't think you could even just trying just making the effort. And that deserves celebration. So always share your wins. Share your successes with other people celebrate tell them about it, you should be proud of is not boastful. Maybe it is boastful, but being boastful is okay. Like you should brag about yourself when you're doing something great. Not in a way that says I'm better than someone else. But I mean, talk yourself up because nobody is gonna care about your goals more than you are. And if you feel proud of yourself, you deserve to shout that from the rooftops. Celebration is going to trigger dopamine, which is reward neuro chemical in your brain, which is going to signal to you that you just did something awesome. That's really good, and your brain likes it. And then you're going to want to do more of it. So the next time you try to accomplish a goal, or try to do the same thing again, it's going to be even easier to get started because your brains gonna remember Hey, last time I did this, it was awesome. And I felt amazing. I want to do it again. Like anything you can do just celebrate. In the example of my hike, for instance, that's going to be the celebration, the celebration is actually going on the trip and doing the thing. Or maybe afterwards, I'll have some kind of celebration, a way to say Wow, I did it I was complete. This is why we throw parties, graduation parties, we're celebrating the conclusion of a chapter the accomplishment of a goal. It is so meaningful and so important. Go out, eat, take yourself to the spa for a day. Go sit by the water and meditate for a few minutes. Eat your favorite food. Spend a night in with your family. Go out with your partner, dance, go dancing, put on some music and dance around the house. Like just get the vibe up. Like clap, cheer. Go Yes, like audibly say yes. Hooray. Yay. Like, you can fist pump you can pat yourself on the back. You can do a little dance, jump up and down, wave your arms in the air, generate some energy, just amp up the vibe, celebrate yourself, you deserve it. Get the dopamine going like tell yourself, I am amazing. I just accomplished this goal. And I am going to do it again. Just you watch me. So in summary, the four things that I believe are most important and necessary for crushing your goals are incentive accountability, tracking and evaluation and celebration. Thank you so much for listening. I would love to hear what you got out of this episode. Please go on iTunes, leave a review and share a little bit about how you've accomplished goals in your own life. And until next time, friends, keep writing your story and author your life. Thank you so much for joining this conversation. If you enjoyed this episode, please be sure to leave a review a five star rating. 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